A single woman should remember that her loneliness is her own choice!
A single woman does not have a man with whom she can live or at least meet at present. A single woman can be a single mother or a student of a last year of high school. Life of a single woman is not easy. A single woman has to cope with everything herself, she works and at the same time she is engaged in the creation of the career.
A single woman is given to herself, she has a house, the bed, and she is free to be engaged in what is pleasant to her. A single woman can all the day be on a sofa with a book, knowing that there is the whole mountain of ware on her kitchen.
A single woman is full of self-respect. A single woman is not obliged before anybody. A single woman provides herself and has the right to vote everywhere. A single woman can plunge into a hobby, having subordinated it the life, a single woman can invite visitors when she likes, and it will be those visitors whom she wishes to see.
A single woman can stir and drink all night long with pleasure with her best girlfriend, without thinking out any idiotic stories that «the underground» has broken and it has been necessary (though she did not wish) to spend the night at her aunt. A single woman in general strikes up the acquaintances which she wants.
A single woman is psychologically independent, a single woman is not in love, and it is good and comfortable for her. However, a single woman at times becomes sad because she spends evenings alone, or with the company of the child, or a cat.
A single woman has a lot of time for herself, looking after the appearance, and that is why she looks perfectly. A single woman is clever, and does not limit herself in personal growth. A single woman has fine possibility to meet the love, but does not wish to hurry up and waste the talents on trifles. A single woman can allow herself this.
As we have already spoken, a single woman is not burdened by love or the partner in life. Does it mean that a single woman does not search for this love and the companion? It is not so! A single woman is in a constant search. And a single woman has very accurate idea about what should be this partner in life. He should be high, handsome, rich, clever, formed, wise, careful, loving, skilful, responsible, taken place, childless, and fair. To others he should be charming, mysterious, the one-woman man, strong, as Schwarzenegger, and cheerful, as Petrosyan. It is possible to add this list longer, but the main thing in the present prince — that he has no lacks. And it is not necessary to pay attention that it will be boring with such a man. Also half of our charm – are our lacks.
In a reality there are few princes. A single woman is usually surrounded by king's sons-toads. These types will suggest to bring up a single woman to the house, will come to hang up home to it eaves, will invite to a restaurant, will play with the child, will stroke a cat, will shirk a dog, will present flowers and will make attempt to vacuum her carpets. It will be not those, not such, any foolish, absolutely unnecessary, uninteresting and unpleasant subjects.
As a rule, a single woman is weighed upon the freedom. A single woman should struggle with all hardship alone, a single woman could not be helped. A single woman celebrates holidays in loneliness or with the same lonely girl-friends.
A single woman at times has nobody to talk heart-to-heart, to complain and find sympathy and understanding. A single woman does not have man who could be held by the hand during the moments of sincere discomfort or during watching of a sad film. A single woman is burdened by responsibility. A single woman has nobody to address for any help. The society can always condemn a single woman, having hung on her a label of the old maid. This is the REAL SINGLE WOMAN.
Maybe it is strange, but a single woman in a reality can be not lonely completely. A single woman can have a wide range of close friends and relatives which will support her and to bear for her responsibility. A single woman – this is not necessarily woman who works. A single woman can live on money of her parents, the former husband, rich girlfriend, brothers, sisters or adult children. Obligations to friends and relatives at times can be much heavier than family bonds.
A single woman can be not independent person who completely is responsible for, again parents, adult children or close friends can do this for her. A single woman can not suffer from the loneliness, thanking all to the same friends and relatives or because she has been so much time married that she simply would not like any more and wants to think of the life in loneliness.
A woman can become a single woman for a while to find composure and to heal wounds. Anyway, a defining vector for a single woman is that loneliness - it is her own choice.
Positive sides of the status of a single woman consist that a single woman is free to dispose of herself and the time under own discretion. Nobody has the rights to condemn a single woman.
• a single woman presumes to herself everything that not presumed to herself by the married woman.
• a single woman can fall in love, can devote herself a lot of time, may not come home at night, and thus she should not hide or make any report.
• a single woman may not fray herself nerves in quarrels with the husband.
• a single woman does not need to search approaches to the husband, to be arranged under him and to attack a throat to own song.
• a single woman can be engaged in self-realization — to get education, to construct career, to devote herself to a hobby.
• a single woman is her own master, she earns money, spends them and does not make reports to anybody.
• a single woman will be never condemned by emancipated feminists because a single woman does not destroy the person and lives for herself.
• Only in loneliness a woman can normally live, keeping self-esteem, and to develop.
• Dialogue with men is a humiliation. If a woman is lonely, men can think that she is too accessible.
• All men need just the one thing from a single woman.
• a single woman is not worthy dialogue with men.
• Men can’t be trusted.
To crack own clumsy and paradoxical mythological world, a single woman should remember that the loneliness is her own choice. Remember: a single woman remains the person not depending on if there is a man next to her or not.
Remember: a single woman cannot be accessible or is not accessible — a single woman is not a good in a shop.
A single woman – this is an interesting person who communicates with men surrounding her, not only distributing advance payments or rejecting the next admire. Relationships between a man and a woman are much wider and deeper.
Remember: some failures in private life do not mean that all men are full of perfidy and contempt for you. More likely, they won back those mythological roles which you have imposed to them.
Having got rid of your own mythological installations, you will see that men surrounding you appreciate person in you, respect you as the person and love you the way you are. Nobody in this world try to hurt you.
Remember: the loneliness is your choice!!! The fact that you have not found at present the worthy man for life together, does not mean that nobody have tried to be with you.
At present you have a rest and gain strength for new love. You can define exact term of the stay in this delightful condition.
So, our dear women, this is your own choice to be or not to be a single woman :)
