Single woman… Who is she?
If to trust participants of our interrogation, then:
«A single woman – is an unfortunate person. A single woman has not been able to develop in herself necessary qualities and to find a place in life, in home life. I do not trust, if a single woman says that she does not want to marry, a single woman can’t deceive herself!»
«Poor single woman! A single woman becomes hysterical, eternally dissatisfied, speaking that she needs nobody in life, but actually a single woman envies like mad to married women!»
«A single woman is unfortunate. But it can’t be noticed by her face. A single woman is cheerful (more often, beautiful, clever …) A single woman is reserved and artful.»
The majority of women are assured that their single girlfriends are very unfortunate. And if it can’t be seen by the face of a single woman, it means that this single woman pretends very well. A single woman by definition can’t be happy, high-grade.
It would be desirable to talk especially about an eternally hysterical single woman.
Imagine two women. They are of the same age, each of them has a child, approximately identical interests, but only one of them has the husband. They are familiar since the childhood; they have studied together and now work in the one office. One fine day both of them are late for work because have simply overslept. Both come to the office nervous, without hair dresses and «not in the spirit ».
- Masha, what has happened to you? Probably you have prepared your husband a business trip all night long? Or maybe your son has been ill? – Compassionate colleagues snatch on one of them.
- Oh, Tanya, it is time for you to marry! You see how it turns out without a man … - they meet the second.
Guess who of them will flare up in the answer?
How much patience you need to explain every year, that there is no man to marry? That nobody propose and if proposes – he is «not that one», not to liking to the woman or her child etc.
However, if a single woman is late – there always appears a new wave of questions, councils, reproaches, helps. Why have you been late? – At once it is visible, have spent the night at the lover, immoral person … has badly carried out the task of the chief? – What are you thinking about? It is necessary to think about work! If a single woman has replied roughly – she needs a man, because without a man a single woman is always angry. This list can be continued and continued.
During time practically every single woman tries to behave so that associates have not enough boldness to ask her a tactless question or to give the same tactless advice. It is almost unique way for a single woman to protect herself from constant intervention in her personal space.
A single woman also turns into an "eternally dissatisfied" because it is probably difficult to be happy when without having greeted at all, the old acquaintance shouts to her from a shop of the third entrance:
- Masha! Haven’t you married yet? Has nobody want to marry you?
How do you think, can a single woman remain lovely and cheerful in such situation, is it very easy?!
A single woman who has remained without the husband, feels:
… a sense of guilt (has not justified hopes of her parents and a society),
… disappointment (the life has been represented absolutely another …),
… uselessness (what do I live for?)
A single woman should constantly «hold a blow» - because rare day passes without questions – councils – edifications – offers. But a single woman needs only one thing – a single woman wants to be like others, the same. A single woman wants to be the most usual woman!
A single woman needs neither pity, nor advices. However many perceive a single woman as mildly, not adequately.
One of the women has written about a single woman:
«A single woman is a mentally sick person»
Obviously, she does not think about the fact that any of us in a flash can become a single woman: anything in life can happen … And that, taking away from the REGISTRY OFFICE the certificate on divorce or, - God forbid! – death certificate of the husband - it is necessary to go at once to surrender to psychiatric clinic?!
Fortunately, so categorical has been only one reader. 19 percent interrogated consider that it is possible to live and in the status of a single woman as well as in the status of a married woman: if it is comfortable for you. The others have shared on two camps: one (42 percent interrogated) consider that a single woman is unfortunate and dexterously hide this; others (39 percent) do not find any tragedy in a condition of a single woman.
«I think that to be a single woman is not bad if a single woman feels herself comfortably»
«One single woman can differ from another single woman. There is such a single woman who needs urgently to marry because she hasn’t been married yet, and under the influence of a society feels defective. And there is such a single woman who does not want to marry because she has not met the one she desires to grow old together»
Many people consider that loneliness – is not a tragedy, but simply a stage in a life of a single woman. Besides, not every single woman considers herself lonely, but just free.
«I think that a single woman is not lonely – but she is free! All depends on perception. The main thing – is to be happy, not depending on if you are a single woman or married!»
«My unmarried girlfriends are successful, have children. And loneliness – is their conscious choice»
«Now I am also a single woman, I am divorced for a month already. Now I am in the status of a single woman. At first it has been difficult, and now I find set of pluses. A single woman becomes stronger; a single woman is more skilled, more wisely. But all the same I will be still happy in home life!»
It is considered that with such a positive spirit – necessarily you will!
One of the interrogated has complained:
«Once she has taken offence that I named her a single woman. She tells: «I am not a single woman. I have my mum and the child and if I do not have a man, I am all the same happy». But I know that it is a lie …»
And here in England the bill, forbidding call a woman "a single woman", and a man "bachelor" prepares. Because it puts mental cruelty to a person and, according to English people’s opinion, offends. But most of all the phrase guards – “But I know that she is unfortunate …”
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Happiness is so fragile and so seldom meets in our world. It so is difficult to keep it in hands and so it is difficult to feel it’s easy breath! Let's do not prove to anyone «do not say lies, I am all the same assured that you are unfortunate». We have no reasons to find out who has married and hasn’t married yet and why. And, by the way: what difference between if she is married or not? All of us have the right to be happy. And whether to marry for this purpose, or on the contrary – to get divorced –each of us has to solve this ourselves!
